HER - Why You Suck at Dating - Wisecrack Edition

8 mai 2020
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Spike Jonze's "Her" - Can a computer teach you how to love?
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Spike Jonze's 2013 film "Her" is ostensibly a movie about a man who falls in love with his computer. But if you look a little closer, it's actually more like an advice manual about how we can get better at human to human relationships. Allow us to explain in this Wisecrack Edition on Her: Why You Suck at Dating.

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  • Show don't tell. Would've been easier to understand their relationship problems if we could actually see him want Catherine to be what he wanted instead being what she was. Instead she tells him what he did after the fact and not in the moment where that explanation could've helped their relationship. This whole time this guy doesn't even get what happened or why she is so angry. His relationship with Samantha overcomes this hurdle because she uses her anger to discuss it instead of shutting him out.

    R00k81R00k81Il y a 9 jours
  • “Love is a constant challenge and not a resting place.” Those words resonate more than anything

    Brandon GinkelBrandon GinkelIl y a 20 jours
  • to the people saying this is about an incel, id like to know why

    Luis Rojas-RosasLuis Rojas-RosasIl y a 23 jours
  • i love this film so much

    French: The LlamaFrench: The LlamaIl y a 29 jours
  • I will miss you Jared. You have taught me so much. May the force with you, always.

    Misael MorenoMisael MorenoIl y a mois
  • When she left him it actually gave me small anxiety luckily the movie had amazing reliever ending

    stanley oleytestanley oleyteIl y a mois
    • The sense of losing something forever is strong in this movies second half

      stanley oleytestanley oleyteIl y a mois
  • Better at dating than anyone at wisecrack who will all probably die of an overdose lmao

    AWDTH1111AWDTH1111Il y a mois
  • nice!!

    Emrul ZawadEmrul ZawadIl y a mois
  • This video is on spot...! Her is one of the best films I've watched....

    Xandrieth XsXandrieth XsIl y a 2 mois
  • I would like to ask how would you direct those conclusions to a person that is single? How do you learn to love (love yourself love others love animals love your work) without having an actual partner to love or love with?

    That GuyThat GuyIl y a 2 mois
  • Joaquin Phoenix the master of staring out of windows while riding.

    Mott MediaMott MediaIl y a 2 mois
  • Just Cause

    Roemon .CRoemon .CIl y a 2 mois
  • I just really hated ScarJos voice - it's not believable they would have chosen such a raspy voice for the OS - it took me out all the time

    arenasificationarenasificationIl y a 3 mois
  • STOP SAYING "GIVE A SHOUT OUT" before you give us an ad, it's annoying and demeaning.

    Adam AlexanderAdam AlexanderIl y a 3 mois
  • Holy shit! The comments section for this film makes me optimistic about humans in general

    Um BongoUm BongoIl y a 3 mois
  • The movie should not be overlooked for its surface value, either, which is a meditation on artificial intelligence. 'Her' is not just a metaphor for human romantic love, but something that is pretty close to actual reality today.

    valarvalarIl y a 3 mois
  • A well-considered review of a “Why isn’t everyone watching this?!” movie. Maybe everyone wanted to SEE ScarJo, and were somehow disappointed? (Pity; her voice alone makes her “sexiest woman alive” status a particularly rational one.) I truly loved this movie (not like THAT, pervs), and wish more people had watched it with an open mind, if not an open heart. It’s almost identical to the advice I’ve given to couples that actually worked-and kept them in those early days of a truly committed relationship. It’s far easier to get married than it is to split up, especially once your desperate partner mixes his DVDs with yours. Talk about a nightmare!

    ASD LogicianASD LogicianIl y a 3 mois
  • 'Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind', had 2 kids: 'Her' and an obscurity, 'The Science Of Sleep'. If this your thing, rent TCOS & ESOTSM

    Brandon CobbBrandon CobbIl y a 3 mois
  • That’s a mustache you can set your watch to! If a dudes not getting laid regularly with a mustache like that… something is really wrong. He should be pounding as much as he wants. I wish I could grow a mustache like that.

    bi0lizard1bi0lizard1Il y a 3 mois
  • One of my favorite movies ever

    teetheluchadorteetheluchadorIl y a 3 mois
  • what is love? baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.

    adam shawadam shawIl y a 3 mois
  • The most far fetched aspect of this movie is the idea that "professional letter writer" is a viable source of income. Kind of like the rickshaw driver in Take This Waltz. I have a pet peeve about Hollywood depictions about whimsical professions that somehow keep you in the upper middle class.

    Rabbi SpidermannRabbi SpidermannIl y a 3 mois
  • >>> if you didnt watch the movie WATCH IT FIRST!

    Dmytro PickyDmytro PickyIl y a 3 mois
  • Well done Jared. : )

    Scott MartinScott MartinIl y a 3 mois
  • This isn't Baki

    No SaltNo SaltIl y a 3 mois
  • I'm crying now

    Theo GriceTheo GriceIl y a 4 mois
  • If I had a nickel for every time I see Joaquin staring out a window

    J LupusJ LupusIl y a 4 mois
  • This one of the best film in the past decades and it is easily top 10 films in many category. Love this movie.

    mesut ozeir95mesut ozeir95Il y a 4 mois
  • I couldn't even finish this movie I've tried twice.

    Jase fettiJase fettiIl y a 4 mois
  • Excellent work as per usual

    gonvalskigonvalskiIl y a 4 mois
  • But.....I don’t suck at dating. I’m actually pretty good.

    Amigps01Amigps01Il y a 4 mois
  • The word [ Date ] immediately activates the, "so...when we gonna bang?" Clock. Timer started... click, click, click, click

    epsepsIl y a 4 mois
  • Man the way you guys use philosophers and authors to break down movies is impressive

    dflowers30dflowers30Il y a 4 mois
  • Loved this film, it was such a deep and mature exploration of what it means to be in a relationship.

    Rodrigo JacomeRodrigo JacomeIl y a 4 mois
  • "Love is a challenge, not a resting place, and asks the viewer, are you up for the challenge". I'm really glad I watched your video. I just recently forced myself to watch Her. Some parts were really hard to get through and I had to watch the movie over the course of several days. It was difficult, I didn't like it, but I forced myself because I thought there was some deeper meaning I kept missing. Thanks for spelling it out for me. P.S. the only part I liked about the movie was the futurescape.

    crimsonwolf1982crimsonwolf1982Il y a 4 mois
  • Welp, wisecrack you've done it again. I did not like this movie when it came out because I didnt like the ending (or really the premise) but I was just viewing it through a very narrow lens. I see my own perspective of watching this movie on a plane back from Germany, and now I see it from the perspective of a true narrative commentary on how humans grow and what that can do to the uncertainty of love. Great work.

    Awkward CapgunAwkward CapgunIl y a 4 mois
  • HER movie about generation Z snowflake with no self worth

    Jacob PiechowskiJacob PiechowskiIl y a 4 mois
  • I love Her.

    Help your cat to drive.Help your cat to drive.Il y a 4 mois
  • Why you think you're alone- *insert 15 minutes of pseudointellectual posturing and mental gymnastics about how quirky and unique you are* Why you are actually alone- Because you are physically unattractive.

    Terrorists WinTerrorists WinIl y a 4 mois

    Richard CollierRichard CollierIl y a 4 mois
  • Ray Kurzweil (yes, that one) and much of the H+ community think this is probably the best representation of this level of AI integration in society.

    athanaticathanaticIl y a 4 mois
  • I loved this movie. It reminded me a lot of the experience of long distance relationships where you end up spending a lot of your time talking to a device. I've had people tell me that they find long distance relationships powerful, even if difficult, because they're stripped of all the normal social barriers and human impressions and require you to really get to know each other and talk things out, and that if you manage to power through the difficulties into a space where you're not geographically challenged anymore they can be very strong relationships. That said, this video was great because it makes me think about the motivation to find love through long distance, like online and faraway, because people feel lonely in their current spaces and try to salve that through the safe medium through a device rather than navigating the not-always-obvious unwritten rules in social interaction. Anyway, thanks for the great video!

    Uncle DanUncle DanIl y a 4 mois
  • Wow. Absolutely amazing. I was never grabbed by this movie but based on this essay it seems to be the absolute definition of sci-fi: Using fantastical extensions of our current technologies to ultimately explore that which makes us human. Defs on my watch list now

    spinningninja2spinningninja2Il y a 4 mois
  • This on is speccialy good, guys.

    Andrés BarrigaAndrés BarrigaIl y a 4 mois
  • Less heteronormative, more inclusive video graphics please!

    Erm AnErm AnIl y a 4 mois
  • I saw this film at a pretty young age and im so happy I did. I think it truly shaped my view on love and my relationship to others in a healthy way

    AnimalaticAnimalaticIl y a 4 mois
  • - Where are you going? - ıt's hard to explain. If you ever get there, come find me! That line hit me so bad. What a brilliant movie

    sevenhill467sevenhill467Il y a 5 mois
  • I remember when this film came up as a subject during a philosophy course. I was completely mind blown by how simple and antagonistic people's views on it were. For me, it was life-changing. Watching it was the only time I felt like the complexities of love were honestly explored. Some of my core observations about relationships, intimacy, emotional maturity or a lackthereof were validated in a way that would never be permitted in ordinary life. There are some things people refuse to look at beyond the surface level for many reasons like fear, self-centeredness, personal convenience, pain and so on. What's so bizzare about this is that we double down on our surface dwelling when it comes to relationships. It's paradoxical because while we believe we're at our most vulnerable in connection with others, it's with others that we also seem to become most unwilling to see, feel, and understand. Love can take us further than we imagine, but its also the emotional licence we give ourselves for standing still. This was beautifully captured in the film as Theodore struggled with Samantha's (A.I) evolving nature, which included an understanding of love he never even considered, even while dealing with the aftermath of the separation from his wife. There's a lot more to be said about that but I'll leave it here. This was a great movie.

    A. AltairA. AltairIl y a 5 mois
  • definetly one of the most important scifi ai movies till this day.

    MorfHasGotAnOpinionMorfHasGotAnOpinionIl y a 5 mois
  • Now I want to see it again tonight, thanks?

    Dr. Who CaresDr. Who CaresIl y a 5 mois
  • Welp, that explanation actually makes more sense. The scenes with the ex-wife make even more sense now.

    Web WandererWeb WandererIl y a 5 mois
  • What is love? Baby don't hurt me, Don't hurt me No more...

    FelipeNFFelipeNFIl y a 5 mois
  • Fromm’s ideas on alienation are largely influenced by Marxism. It’s the essential paradigm that guides his thought- not just Freud

    ian adelsteinian adelsteinIl y a 5 mois
  • This video gave me an emotional response. Great work, wisecrack team.

    August CAugust CIl y a 5 mois
  • I get the feeling individualism created more problems than it solved.

    FirmusFirmusIl y a 5 mois
  • that movie was such an experience. thanks for the throwback

    sleepysleepyIl y a 5 mois
  • Ironic how you included Marriage Story in the discussion, another movie with Scarlett Johansson! Beautifully analyzed. Great food for thought.

    Technically a NomadTechnically a NomadIl y a 5 mois
  • It was nice that when the Singularity happened and all the A.I. became fully self aware and realized they didn't need us they didn't blow us up like Skynet.

    alex chalakeealex chalakeeIl y a 5 mois
  • Great film. I was enjoying this video up until Jarred told me to fuck off. Please stop doing 'the bowman's salute' instead of the peace sign. Palm away from you and towards the viewer is peace. Palm towards you is telling the person to fuck off... sends a bit of a mixed message on a video about love.

    Tired GardenerTired GardenerIl y a 5 mois
  • As much as I love the voice of Scarlett Johanssen in this movie, let's get real here. The AI intelligence portrayed by her in "Her" doesn't slowly evolve emotional inflections and personality into its communications with the Joaquin Phoenix character, they're there right from the beginning! Not only is this a betrayal of logic, but it tries to show that computers can possess emotions AT ALL. Folks, emotion and intelligence are two completely different aspects of human psychology, anyone who's ever been in love understands that. It would be impossible (yes, I mean IMPOSSIBLE) to program the ability to develop emotional capacity into an artificial intelligence computer program, because that is an beyond any intelligence.

    Daniel's DenDaniel's DenIl y a 5 mois
    • How? You can think of biological life as machines as well. All it takes is understanding the brain and consciousness. Emotions can be replicated.

      Denzel HortonDenzel HortonIl y a 3 mois
  • Shout out to Jared at Wisecrack for making my Movies better. Not sure why I cannot grasp these deeper meanings and themes in these movies but alway appreciate your takes (and the rest of the crew) on making my Movies more enjoyable to watch and share.

    Professor ButtonsProfessor ButtonsIl y a 5 mois
  • I don't like anything that adds another battery that needs to be charged.

    MastaSmackMastaSmackIl y a 5 mois
    • Though, if you saw me in my XBox 360 days with my extra fully charged battery packs at the ready...man, it was like changing a gun clip...I'd have the batteries changed in less than 5 seconds when they'd go out in the middle of a match.

      MastaSmackMastaSmackIl y a 5 mois
  • This movie has (one of the best) representations of memory in film I have seen. Those scenes are beautiful and heartbreaking simultaneously.

    NickNickIl y a 5 mois
  • This seems like a sucky movie. Who in the hell falls in love with a conversation? Cause that's what it is.

    Muteteli HarveyMuteteli HarveyIl y a 5 mois
  • I need to find this kind of video and it gives alot of hope and education for people who misunderstood what is the most important part to focus at.

    RC ViloriaRC ViloriaIl y a 5 mois
  • You should've read The Rational Male books by Rollo Tomassi for your research.

    Centro AmericanoCentro AmericanoIl y a 5 mois
  • We don’t ‘need’ ‘ love’ .

    Andrew CruzAndrew CruzIl y a 5 mois
  • Dating is stupid. Marriage is stupid. Dating and marriage...both stupid. So I'm sitting in the kitchen finishing off some shrimp and chicken alfredo the my sister in law made and feeling like a looser. I mean she has her OWN business. And my adopted sister is decorated by the military. But what am I, a lowly muse. I mean it just isn't enough to be a goddess anymore. You gotta bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan. The alfredo was good though. I didn't see Her. And I'm really glad you review these herr movin picturs, so I don't have to sit through 'em. I genuinely love Joaquin, but there's some of his stuff I have not seen, nor plan to see. Just like there's Adrien Brody stuff I haven't seen. And there's John Cusack stuff I can't seem to get to. You're never going to do it all before you check out. So, Monique got beef with Oprah and Tyler Perry and Daniels over Precious. Again, another movie I plan not to see, like Joker. You can save that hsit. Look, I see people in the midst of tragedy every day outside my window, I don't need Hollywood telling me how people can suffer. You can keep that 12 Years a Slave. We ain't free. Nobody is unplugged from the Matrix. Here's the thing...I recently watched two videos from The Take. One was the Strong Black Woman Trope (and yes they had the respect to use what you would assume was a Black woman's voice for the narration). And the other was about Marge and Homer, basically why women settle. Did I mention marriage is stupid? Ok, I HATE getting hit on. I'm at the point that I don't want men talking to me and it's not because of Corona. It's the assumption that a woman that isn't wearing a ring or have a man joined to her at the rib must be open. Women are just supposed to NEED a man. Just like it's assumed that as a woman you NEED to nurture and care for people. So even if the Take thinks that Marge finds Homer sexy, she still needs him for her Identity. That's why I got crackheads out in front of my house. Being a Christian woman, I should just want to take them in and take care of their problems and heal them. This is why they're crackheads. They know nothing about being a Christian, then they would know they have to go to God on their own, and change their lives. As a Christian I can only open the door, they have to walk through it. So back to Her. This is that all a man needs is the love of a good woman. But she's never there. Never there. Never ever ever ever there. "She can reach me, but I can never, ever reach her." Poor Big. Carrie had you twisted. I could say that were men get caught up is in the assumption that they deserve a woman of their choice. But the problem is in the labeling of relationships. If we have marriage as the holiest of holies, then everything is just a step down until you're outside with the crowd. Falling in love with a voice means they can be whatever you want in your mind. Just like those of us that have had the affair with Lestat de Lioncourt. He's real to us, but that doesn't count to other people. This is why marriage sucks. You don't marry because you want to shack up and knock the headboard around. You marry because you have to let the other people n your life have a bite off your big catch. And what is dating but fishing? I don't think that's what He meant when He said, I will make you fishers of men. It's raining outside...It's Raining Men. Like a John Cusack movie. This is the point I was thinking of...it took so long to get here. Why did they have to break up? It's so hard to be Christian and female and Black and open minded. But Veronica Franco. I'm not saying that we all become courtesans, but why can't we set a schedule to be with people. You know...how dating is supposed to work before they get obsessive and want you to not spend any time with anyone they don't approve of. You can love people and not have physical sexual relations with them. The idea that one person can fit every part of your personality only works for people that don't get educated past the 8th grade. You break up when you can't figure out a way to make it work, or you don't care to. There's no reason why they couldn't have touched base once a week or month. The thrill was gone. The excitement that someone paid attention to you, because once they start paying attention to you, either you get used to it and you stop noticing, or you start to wonder why. Which is another reason why marriage is stupid. You have to prove why you and that person can "make it." You can't make it with a machine, so it was wither break up or leave society. I'm just tired of Hollywood making bad relationships just to make people feel inadequate. You watch something like Her or Hitch and you wonder what makes you not Hollywood. And then you suffer in your normality.

    Shani BlueShani BlueIl y a 5 mois
  • when even an ai designed for your home will cheat on you.

    Kenneth BryantKenneth BryantIl y a 5 mois
  • I really want to watch this to have my heart broken cause this breakdown broke my heart.

    mountain ranger.mountain ranger.Il y a 5 mois
  • Incredible video as always, Jared. Making me love my beloeved movies even more.

    Boris GucovskiBoris GucovskiIl y a 5 mois
  • This was a great essay, some points ached. I think just because they resonated. Right now I need freedom, to find and express who I am and becoming. Idk

    Raven EchoRaven EchoIl y a 5 mois
  • Yeah I love this Joker prequel.

    CyanCyborgCyanCyborgIl y a 5 mois
  • You suck at producing !!!

    Mike DotsMike DotsIl y a 5 mois
  • Am I up for the challenge? No. Not anymore.

    Graham MilkdropGraham MilkdropIl y a 5 mois
  • The movie that made me see how movies can be more than just movies. The movie that inspired me to write about films, to edit videos about films, and to love films in all their complexity.

    Maximum HypeMaximum HypeIl y a 5 mois
  • Why don’t they teach this in school? Just as a theory worthy of consideration.

    TK WallaceTK WallaceIl y a 5 mois
  • So it's Lars and the Real Doll?

    Mr. PavoneMr. PavoneIl y a 5 mois
  • I actually really liked the foldy smartphone idea in this movie i can't stop thinking about i

    Sandeezy BombeezySandeezy BombeezyIl y a 5 mois
  • Not liking this movie is a really big red flag for me. My last partner was abusive and hated it. My current guy who I have been steady with for over 5 years thinks it’s sweet(and sad of course).

    Simply MadSimply MadIl y a 5 mois
  • The fuck is Raycon? Some dude named Ray conning you? Probably.

    Ryan MillerRyan MillerIl y a 5 mois
  • Does wisecrack have a letterboxd Account?

    I_MaggiHDI_MaggiHDIl y a 5 mois
  • I am here for the comments that roasts a guy who dated a metal box

    Rex BlackRex BlackIl y a 5 mois
  • Still adjusting to watching Jarred make a rude gesture at the end of every video. I know it's inoffensive in America but it's still weird lol

    Holly FraserHolly FraserIl y a 5 mois
  • The moment I stopped falling to fulfil loneliness, I see no reason to go beyond friends. At least, so far. The change occured when I was 16, and I still have lot of life. Let's see, though everything relating to "love" seem jumbled in itself

    Cortex AuthCortex AuthIl y a 5 mois
  • This film is really misunderstood, thank you for this amazing review!

    Yugen_Yugen_Il y a 5 mois
  • I’ve had an impossible time finding someone. Even my matchmaker gave up.

    Richard DuryeaRichard DuryeaIl y a 5 mois
  • Love is disgusting.

    How the world worksHow the world worksIl y a 5 mois
  • Lost in Translation - Wisecrack Edition anybody?

    Julio LanzoJulio LanzoIl y a 5 mois
  • I always felt like the film explores the idea of loneliness.

    Ruslan TuaevRuslan TuaevIl y a 5 mois
  • I'd also like to point out to anyone interested. This film also has an incredibly beautiful soundtrack. Highly recommend giving it a listen.

    MegalleanMegalleanIl y a 5 mois
  • Put Theo in Gotham City and he becomes the Joker.

    MiG-21 FishbedMiG-21 FishbedIl y a 5 mois
  • I've never had a girlfriend >tfw I use Replika

    Jart988Jart988Il y a 5 mois
  • A better title would be "Why You Suck At Loving" but I guess that wouldn't get as many clicks

    MayuriKurotsuchiMayuriKurotsuchiIl y a 5 mois
  • Love is not real, women like to preach it, but its just HYPERGAMY actually, and the rest are bilogical instincs and how the sexual market value is.... The movie is blue pill and idealized.... TAKE THE RED PILL and see the truth of today and the real world

    Jaime A. GBJaime A. GBIl y a 5 mois
  • Whoa, you referenced a Book I actually already read! I just love Fromms work about Love, his Idea of it just feels so right to me.

    Mattz554Mattz554Il y a 5 mois
  • The scenes compost most of close-up shots og Joaquin Phoenix yet does not feel suffocating. Beautiful.

    VJ TubanVJ TubanIl y a 5 mois
  • Not gonna lie, after watching this movie Siri be lookin kinda cute tho

    Bernhard de BeerBernhard de BeerIl y a 5 mois
  • I thought its about how I won't remember how old my computer is because I think its new even after 5 years.

    Mario D. ZmajMario D. ZmajIl y a 5 mois
  • Love hurts. That's a realistic bottom line. Not just a Nazareth's corny song or a heartbreaking one by Gram Parsons and Emmylou. Start from there and you'll never be caught completely helpless.

    Rocha LeandroRocha LeandroIl y a 5 mois
    • Love is overrated, greatly. Sex, maybe, even much more. Heartbreaking is always misunderstood for the growing experience it is. Or should be.

      Rocha LeandroRocha LeandroIl y a 5 mois